The First Two Days of Heartbreak Were the Hardest — 8 Things You Need to Implement to Rest Your Mind

The first 48 hours after heartbreak are a blur.

Your body moves, but it feels like someone else is inside it. Your heart races, your stomach aches, and your mind… won’t stop spinning.

It’s not just grief — it’s withdrawal. From the texts, the safety, the future you imagined. You replay every word, every goodbye. You wonder what you did wrong. You wonder if you’ll ever feel okay again.

Let me tell you something I wish someone told me sooner:

You don’t need to figure it all out right now. You just need to rest your mind.

Here are 8 things I implemented during those first brutal days — small anchors that helped me find stillness when everything felt broken.

1. Reduce Noise — Literally and Emotionally

Turn off the music that reminds you of them. Mute the group chat if it’s too much. Step away from social media — you don’t need to perform your healing.

Your nervous system is already overloaded. Peace is the medicine.

2. Focus on the Next 5 Minutes, Not the Next 5 Years

The future hurts right now. So don’t go there.

Instead of asking “Will I ever love again?” ask:

• “What’s the kindest thing I can do for myself in this moment?”

Breathe. Sip water. Stretch. Put your hand on your heart and say, “I’m safe, even if I don’t feel okay yet.”

3. Delete (Temporarily) to Protect Your Energy

Archive the texts. Mute their socials. Remove reminders.

You don’t have to be a hero about it. This isn’t about anger — it’s about survival.

You can revisit everything later when you're stronger. Right now, you need a buffer from the emotional whiplash.

4. Put Your Hands on Your Body and Anchor Yourself

One of the most grounding things I did was place one hand on my chest and one on my stomach and just breathe.

Whisper:

• “I am here.”

• “This feeling won’t last forever.”

• “I will come back to myself.”

It sounds simple, but your body hears you.

5. Get Outside (Even If You Just Sit on a Bench)

Sunlight doesn’t solve heartbreak — but it softens it.

Walk slowly. Feel the air. Let the trees or traffic or silence remind you: life is still happening. And so are you.

Bonus: Nature doesn’t ask how you’re doing. It just lets you be.

6. Eat Something Neutral and Nurturing

When your appetite is gone, it’s easy to spiral further. So don’t overthink it.

Warm toast. A banana. A handful of nuts. Soup.

Feed your body like you’d feed a friend who’s hurting — with patience, gentleness, and care.

7. Don’t Chase Closure — Give Yourself Permission to Pause

You might want to text them. For answers. For relief. For one last connection.

But here’s the truth: most heartbreak doesn't come with a satisfying conclusion.

Let your healing be your closure — not their words.

8. Sleep When You Can, Cry When You Must

If the tears come, let them. If you can nap, take it. You don’t need to “bounce back” in a day. This is grief — not a delay in productivity.

Let your body do what it needs. You’re allowed to rest.

The first two days feel like drowning in memories, hope, and disbelief. But you will come up for air — not all at once, but slowly, in breaths.

And every little thing you do to rest your mind is a declaration of self-love, even when you don’t feel strong yet.

You're not broken — you're in between chapters. Take the softness. Take the stillness. And trust: the healing has already begun.

Love Arlyn xoxo